***Disclaimer**** There are pictures of the casket at the cemetery at the end of this post. These are not meant to hurt or disrespect any family members or anyone else. I wanted to take a couple of pictures and my mom thought it was weird and inappropriate (and maybe it is for some) but others were ok with it. If you don't want to look, don't.
Last night was the visitation for my Gramma at the funeral home. If you live in Minnesota, you know we were hit with a snow storm which only complicated an already terrible situation. Many people did arrive at the funeral home to see my Gramma one last time. The first hour was for family only and the next three hours was open to the public. The casket was open and my Gramma looked nice. We had picture boards up around perimeter of the room as well as two video screens with a slideshow of different photos of my Gramma. I'm thankful for all those that came to support my Gramma, especially those that were there to support me including the following:
- Kris and Jim
- Kim (M's sister)--She made fantastic banana bars for my whole family which everyone loved
- Jim and Lorrie (M's cousins)
With the funeral starting at 2 pm today, again at the funeral home, M and I left our house early enough to make it through the snow but we didn't even get out of our driveway. We were stuck and we weren't going anywhere. Despite shoveling, rocking the car back and forth and any attempt to get out, we were there for probably almost 20 minutes. Of course I was in a panic knowing that I am going to be late for my own Gramma's funeral. M finally enlisted the help of a couple of neighbor boys and they pushed our way out. I did call my dad to let him know and they were going to start the funeral five minutes late, which I guess they did and we arrived into a full room while they played the first song so we hadn't missed anything.
The service itself was short and sweet and perfect, including words spoken by my sister, which she did a great job. There were three songs played during the service. My Gramma liked country music so they played Alan Jackson and Vince Gill, two of her favorites. The service ended with a song by Brad Paisley, which I believe was chosen by the Celebrant.
After the service, the pall bearers lined up next to the casket and loaded it into the hearse. My pall bearers were as follows: Daniel, Christopher and Ben, who are all my cousins as well as my sister Jamie, myself and Michael. My cousin David is in the Marines and he was in Thailand and was not able to come back for the funeral. The military only allows you to leave for the death of an immediate family member, which does not include a grandparent, which was something we learned through this whole process of trying to get a hold of him. Because David was supposed to also be a pall bearer, Michael was asked to take his place, which he was proud and honored to do, just like the rest of us. David's brother, Ben told Michael today that he had spoken to David and David was very happy and grateful that Michael was taking his place as pall bearer.
The service at the cemetery was very brief. It was snowy, cold and very windy. The Celebrant read the following prayer which one part stuck with me, which I've bolded below:
Saint Teresa's Prayer
May today there be peace within.
May you trust God that you are exactly where you
are meant to be.
May you not forget the infinite
possibilities that are born of faith.
May you use those gifts that you have received,
and pass on the love that has been given to you.
May you be content knowing you are a child of God.
Let this presence settle into your bones,
and allow your soul the freedom to sing,
dance, praise and love.
It is there for each and every one of us.
At the end, the majority of my cousin's as well as my aunts, uncle and Grandpa took a white rose and placed it on the casket and said our goodbyes. Thank you to my uncle Dennis and Aunt Pat from the other side of the family who attended the funeral and went to the cemetery to support us and pay their respects to my Gramma.
After the cemetery, we had a gathering for immediate family only at my parent's house. We had Yarusso Bros. food and tried to relax after the events. Rest in peace, Gramma. We miss you already.